Also, how to stay in your comfort zone

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Is California Really All That?

I know that no place is a heaven on Earth. California’s definitely not it. Don’t believe it? Just look at the photos of wildfires! Who would want to live in California? And don’t even get me started on the cost of living there. RENT! OMG! A one-bedroom apartment for over 5K per month in the bay area? How do Californians afford it? They can’t all be making that kinda money!

I’ve been to California several times but have never lived there. And yet, I can’t stop daydreaming about living and working in Silicon Valley. …


The difficulties of keeping the personal separate from the universal

Shadow of a woman.
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Lately, I’ve been spending a lot of time here; reading, and then writing some too. It’s an avoidance mechanism. I have things to do but I’m temporizing.

This is a weird predicament to have. The things I must do are close to my heart. So why am I “procrastinating”? If you’ve lived to be at least 30-something, you should know the answer. As I do.

I’m procrastinating because I care too much. I want to create a perfect thing regardless of its impossibility. That scares me. So I wait.

One of the things I’m working on is an essay for…


I didn’t want this experiment to succeed, but it did

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I make no money on this platform. I don’t write the kind of things that make money. But, I may have figured out what actually does make money!

Some background.

There’s a certain Medium-writer who makes a ton of money on Medium and teaches everyone how to make a ton of money on Medium. Via online courses. They write very specific kinds of stories here. Some examples (and I’m not sharing exact titles for obvious reasons.)

  • 7 things you must do every morning
  • 13 benefits of waking up at 4 AM
  • 5 things that will make your relationships last forever…


Especially if you’re trying to prove a point

Unless you’re this beautiful horse (or any other horse or a goat or some other animal), leave out Ivermectin from your medicine cabinet. Photo from Freepik.

Let’s say I write about racist behavior. I’m a woman of color. So if another person of color disputes my lived experience or even my opinion on matters regarding racism, it throws me off my game, even if for a little bit. But when a white dude does it? He kinda proves my point.

Optics.

Many anti-vaxxers have optics issues. Consider the fact that so many anti-vaxxers are willing to take Ivermectin — an anti-parasite drug — as a preventive measure against COVID-19, but not a vaccine developed in the labs tested on tens of thousands of people for the…


This is awesome! I'd like for this to help the Afghan refugees, if possible.


Oh no, someone’s taking a teeny-weenie piece of the pie, help!

Scene where cops confront Sam Wilson a.k.a. Falcon in episode 2 of Falcon and the Winter Soldier
Cops confront Sam Wilson, a.k.a. Falcon, in episode 2 of Falcon and the Winter Soldier. Marvel Studios

All good things come with a decent amount of shit. That is the default of the time we live in. Or any time for that matter. Take the increasing diversity, the deep-set racism, and systemic injustices in this country, for example. We’re seeing more and more representation of these in Hollywood now, which is a good thing.

But of course, shit must follow.

Why, oh why must we see POC in shows and movies just because they’re POC?

Marvel tackling racism? OH NOOOOO! What happened to entertainment?

This Forbes article is the pits, really. I had read about the supposed…


It’s an astonishing adjective that I never thought would be associated with my identity

Woman writing in a journal.
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A few weeks ago, Kate Green Tripp asked this question in Creator’s Hub — “Do you call yourself a writer?” This got some interesting responses, including mine, where I shared that I prefer blogger or content creator over “writer” because I don’t think my words are good enough for the appellation.

But the other side of the story is this:

  • I make a living with my written words.
  • I spend a lot of time writing, some days more than others, but it’s something I do every day.
  • People read what I write. I get hundreds of visitors to my website…


Everything is commodified and I’m not complaining

Cat peeking out of a cardboard box.
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Well, more like, I cannot afford to complain.

In a fair world, I would be happy to volunteer my knowledge for free. But we don’t live in a fair world. Everything costs money. Renting a one-bedroom apartment costs about 1.5–2K bucks per month in my city. Buying a house is meaningless. Trust me; I did the math.

So, do I want to be paid to share that which should have been free?

You bet I do!

What prompted this story, you ask?

Well, because of what I did after I woke up this morning:

  • I checked my email.
  • Saw an…


My experiment is underway, and here’s where I am after three weeks

Woman sitting in front of a computer, smiling, and writing on a notebook.
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After Medium announced the changes to its Partner Program eligibility, I decided to do an experiment:

I created a brand new Medium account and gave myself three months to get it from zero to hundred followers (without tapping into my existing audience in this account or my friends and relatives.) Basically, I wanted to experience what a brand new writer on this platform would experience and see how hard or easy it would be to get from zero to a hundred followers.

Here are my findings after [almost] three weeks.

The overall scenario so far

I created the new account on August 15 under a…


Thank you for sharing my comment in this shortlist :) It was interesting reading everyone else's take on this. I also like what Ece has said about letting readers make the decision—it makes sense!

Maliha

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